That’s what I’d like to be written on my headstone, if I have one.

Insults fired at a person, especially to women, are often not actually insults. ‘She’s so full of herself’. ‘She really thinks she’s something’. Well, yes, I am 100% full of myself, with very little space left over for other people’s opinions and judgements on that (thanks Jo Hutton for this!). I’m also working quite hard on letting myself go. I’ve been holding myself in for long enough now, trying to look reasonably acceptable, be a good girl in all kinds of ways, and generally twist myself into knots trying not to offend anyone or frighten the horses.

It’s going to take me a while, but I do hope that by the time comes for me to order my headstone (if I have one), I’ll be able to confidently have ‘she let herself go’ carved into stone.